Listen Today So They Will Talk Tomorrow
Children often begin conversations at the most inconvenient times. They may want to tell us a long story while we are cooking, working, answering messages, or trying to get everyone out of the house. It can be tempting to respond without fully listening. However, the little things children share today are helping them decide whether they can trust us with the bigger things tomorrow. When your child says, “Mom, guess what happened,” they may be sharing more than a story. They may be asking:
“Do you care about what matters to me?”
“Will you listen without laughing at me?”
“Can I trust you with my feelings?”
Listening does not always mean that we can immediately stop everything. When you are unavailable, respond honestly and give your child a specific time when you can listen. You might say, “I really want to hear this. Give me five minutes to finish what I am doing, and then you will have my full attention.” Make sure you return and keep that promise. When possible, put down the phone, turn toward your child, make eye contact, and allow them to finish speaking. Try not to interrupt or rush into solving the problem. Sometimes children need guidance, but sometimes they simply need to feel heard.
The Bible reminds us:
“Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.”
James 1:19
Listening creates connection. It also helps children develop the confidence to express their feelings, ask for help, and communicate honestly.
TRY THIS TODAY
Ask your child one meaningful question:
What was the best part of your day?
What was the hardest part of your day?
Did anything make you feel worried today?
What made you smile today?
Is there anything you wish I understood better?
Listen without immediately correcting, lecturing, or judging their answer.
EDUCATIONAL SUPPORT
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention explains that active listening includes giving children your full attention, getting on their level, reflecting what they said, and helping them name their emotions. These practices can strengthen communication and help children feel secure.
The American Academy of Pediatrics also explains that taking time to talk and listen helps children feel important and can build confidence.
Read more:
CDC: Tips for Connecting and Communicating
American Academy of Pediatrics: Growing Independence in Young Children
Listen carefully to the little things today so your child will feel safe sharing the big things tomorrow.
